Monday, January 28, 2013

Marriage Monday-Commitment

 
                                              Exactly 28 years ago on April 6th 1985, Eddie and I became one. We said vows, and made a true commitment to each other. Through the years, has that commitment been tested? You better believe it has!! Examples: infertility, my mom living with us, and being her caregiver until her death, my battle with being a cutter after my mom's death, Eddie's battle with Gillian Barri syndrome, financial hardships, and of course, all of my health problems. Are we a happily ever after, perfect couple? No, we are a very real couple, that has struggles, just like everyone else. Do we agree about everything? Of course not, we are two different people. But, I am totally committed to Eddie. I would never even consider divorce. Things have been very strained in our marriage since my stroke, Eddie has changed so much. He treats me so differently, he has distanced his self from me. I feel so alone, but, I will never give up on my marriage. No matter how many walls he tries to put up between us, with God's help, I will scale those walls. I will forever be committed to the two men in my marriage, that I took vows with, God, and Eddie.

25 comments:

Lori ~ The Simple Life at Home said...

Aw, Denise, this is a beautiful post. I had no idea you had struggled with as much as you have. I pray that God richly and deeply blesses you with His love and compassion, that He restores the tender relationship between you and your husband, and that He brings you physical healing. I'm so glad we are back in touch again after all this time. xoxo

Annmarie Pipa said...

Happy anniversary. oh my gosh, what struggles you have endured. God must really really love you! when I read the lives of the saints and all of their struggles and how their faith grew stronger because of those struggles I am always inspired. Keep the faith..you inspire my own faith!

joy said...

I pray that your marriage be renewed again. You really had diffilcuties and still has, but the good thing is God is there for you and help you in every circumstances.

Beth said...

You've pointed out the crucial point all of our marriage need--commitments are only strong when founded in Christ, Denise. I'm so glad you have that certainty in your God--as do I. He's done some amazing things in my marriage as well. Great post!

Farida said...

Very inspiring! Take care ♥

Jennifer Peterson said...

Happy Anniversary and I love your heart. Your marriage is in my prayers!!

Bethe77 said...

So many struggles! WOW! But isnt that the case with most marriages and relationships. Always another mountain to climb and conquer with Jesus. Thank you for being so open and real. What an encouragement to so many. Prayers for you and your marriage health and all areas of your life. May the Lord bless you Denise!
Blessings

MyJourneyBack said...

Beautiful post. And beautiful words. You are a strong and commited woman. Thanks for sharing your heart.
Have a wonderful week,
Sherry

Lauren Davenport said...

Praying for you and your marriage. May God bless you for your faithfulness and commitment to your husband.

Dee said...

Anniversary blessings.....there are times in our marriage one or both of you will get snowed under with the heavy things of the world. You both have been through so much....but here you still are. :)

e-Mom said...

You're a committed and faithful wife, sweet one. And congratulations on nearly 28 years of marriage!

I'm so sorry Eddie has distanced himself since your stroke. That's really lonely for both of you.

Perhaps he has felt a sense of helplessness--ie. his inability to "fix" you medically. I'm sure you can think of other ways to put him to work so he can feel successful in caring for you--and that will draw him closer.

Thanks for linking up with Marriage Monday today, Denise.

Hugs, e-Mom ღ

nice A said...

I'm so sorry for all your struggles, Denise, but I am so encouraged by your great strength to hold on no matter what because you have so much faith in God. That's how I also found victory in all my struggles in marriage. God is really great!

Sharon said...

A beautiful testament to your commitment. I pray that God moves in your marriage, and that it experiences a revival of love in spite of the challenges that life is throwing your way right now.

GOD BLESS!

Tami Boesiger said...

You have overcome so much, Denise, with God by your side, and you will get through this too. You are an inspiration to many.

mijn simpel blogje said...

what can i say? nice you think that way..life isnt always easy take care friend

Cathy said...

Praying for your marriage, dear, sweet Denise. Love you ~

Miriam Pauline said...

Real people doing their best to live out commitment. Thanks for sharing this week.

Pia said...

happy anniversary!!! keep believing... keep the faith. God sees and He knows. (((hugs)))

Marian said...

Que bonita historia de amor de fidelidad, de pruebas a superar.
Dios le dará la fortaleza y la gracia.
Gracias Denise Por sus oraciones.
Dios la bendiga.Un abrazo.

Denise said...

You are so honest My Dear sweet friend. Congratulations on your Ann.May God continue to bless both of you.You are a inspiration with such great faith. Thank You-Denise

LeAnn said...

You can do this; you are very strong and have great faith. He might actually be going through grieving due to all of the struggles. When there is any kind of changes like you have had this is a grieving process for you both. It is not always just grieving at a death. I know that things will get better.
Blessings and prayers for you!

Telaviv Yohanka said...

The only Thing I Could Say Is, That You Have To Continue Fighting Like A Warrior Because Jesus Is Going to Do Something Big In Eddy's Heart. I love You So Much, The Lord Takes Care Of You And Your Family No Matter What Are The Circumstances,
Blessings & Hugs.

Dammy said...

May the second man in your life (God) be even closer to you as you hold on to the marriage commitment you made!
Happy Anniversary xx

Faith said...

wow. I am in awe of your honesty here. You are a brave woman and it sounds like you indeed have been through a lot. I will pray for your husband Eddie. God knows your heart and I firmly believe He will honor your prayers.

Julie Arduini said...

I'm late getting to the Marriage Monday posts, but so glad I got to read yours. May ALL the locusts have stolen be replaced a thousand fold. Thank you for your commitment to marriage!