Love needs to be based on character, if you know and love God, you see He has a lot of character we are in love with. The best thing we can do for our spouse is to grow in character, as listed in 1 Cor 13. It’s a love of choice. We choose to love God, He chooses to love us. Love of choice is the most powerful love, God calls that agape love, it’s a love that lasts, we should never settle for anything else between us and God, and others. It’s a love that grows. Keep fervent in your love, allow it to stretch and strain as you watch it grow. Wayne Corderio: Love is a choice that we are freely given. These days marriages remind me of a certain type of razor, disposable. A marriage is not something you try on for a little while, and then take it off, or exchange it for another. Those vows you took said for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness or health, till death do you part. But, so many people seem to think that marriage is a game, they play for awhile, but then they move on. You are to love your spouse always, good times or bad. Love tends to grow stronger through the storms, as well as the sunny days. Jesus loved us so very much, that He willingly died for our sins, He chose to love us. Choose to love Jesus, not just sometimes, but all the time.