Monday, March 26, 2012

Marriage Monday-Romance

 I am not getting my definition of romance from the dictionary, instead, I am getting my definition from my heart.To me, romance is doing things to make your husband, or wife feel loved.  Not just telling them you love them, but showing them you love them. Love is a verb, and it truly needs action behind it. How has my husband shown romance to me? Wow, in so many various ways. When my mother was living with us, and she was dying, he was so good to her. He treated her like she was his mother, they were such awesome friends. I remember one night, she got really sick, and we had to take her to the emergency room. She was so sick, and very weak. Eddie lifted her up in his arms, and carried her out to the car. I will never forget the smile on her face, and the words she said to him"Eddie, no man has ever swept me off my feet before, thanks!! My husband put a giant smile upon my mothers face, and a giant smile in my heart. That to me, was very romantic. When my hair was falling out, and I had to shave it off, which made me feel very ugly, and unwomanly. My husband stood in the bathroom, shaved my head, dried my tears, told me over, and over, that I was beautiful in his eyes, then, he shaved his head. That to me, was very romantic. I have a constant battle with my weight, he loves me regardless. When I was at my biggest, 258, he always said I was beautiful. When I was dealing with aneroxia, and lost down to 99 pounds, he still said I was his beautiful wife, and now, he constantly tells me I am beautiful. That to me, is very romantic. When I had my stroke last year, he was there at every visiting hour, both in intensive care, and rehab. He was my biggest cheerleader. He would wheel me outside to the gazebo, where we would have little picnics. That to me, was very romantic. Believe me when I say, romance is very alive at the Oldham home. By the way, romance is not solely based upon sex. Although, sex is a very precious, important part of marriage.

29 comments:

HOOTIN ANNI said...

Oh Denise, this is a phenomenal post!!! I love the fact that you used your own definition of love and being in love!!

Autumn said...

Wonderful.

Jackie Paraiso said...

so romantic indeed your Eddie is (not was but is!)You're so blessed to have him Denise :)

Lisa Maria said...

Denise I'm wiping way my tears...this was so beautiful! What a lovely romantic marriage you have.

Thanks for sharing from your heart.

God bless!

Constance said...

You brought tears to my eyes when I read this! It reminded me of a story I read years ago written by a woman whose mother had Alzheimer's. It was specifically written about her father and his devotion to her mother. He wouldn't think of "putting her away" or making his life easier even though she no longer remembered him. He said(my paraphrase), "I remember and I will remember for the both of us!" Love is more than a feeling, it's a commitment! Thanks for sharing that with us today!
Connie

Gina Gao said...

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Tesha said...

Wow he sounds wonderful, How very sweet he was to your mom. My Papaw took care of my little Mamaw (his MIL) for years I know how much that meant to her and my Mamaw. I am glad he has been so faithful in your trials. You are blessed even in difficult times.

Lisa Lewis Koster said...

What a beautiful picture you've painted! It does indeed take a special man when illness is involved. I'm thankful to be married to one of them!

Monica @ my red & purple life said...

Wow, what a testimony of faithfulness. What a blessing to have a husband to understand your deep need to know that you are beautiful in his eyes. Thanks for sharing!

Joyful said...

I too believe that love is a verb. Eddie is showing real love in action. God bless you both.

Profile said...

Denise,

Hug Eddie for me. So beautifully written and what a tribute to your love. Hugging you.

From the Heart said...

A great post from our heart. Blessings, my friend, AE

LivingforGod said...

What a sweet & beautiful post! I love your description and examples of what "romantic" means to you. 1 Corinthians 13 kind of love is very romantic to me :).

Mac an Rothaich said...

Oh wow, very touching and encouraging. Thank you for sharing such personal examples of TRUE romance:)

Faith said...

this was wonderful! your definition is way better than any dictionary one! :)

Juliana / Compartilhando Missões said...

Peace Denise!
You have a wonderful husband!
You are very happy because of this.
Juliana

Tami Boesiger said...

You guys are so sweet.

e-Mom said...

I enjoyed your post so much! Can't wait to meet the two of you in heaven some day.

Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday, Denise.

Blessings, e-Mom @ Chrysalis ღ

momto8 said...

you got a good man!

Tigertamer said...

I LOVE THIS POST today :) than you so much for sharing your definition of love....

Thank you for stopping by always love to see you!!

Gina

Damyanti said...

Stopping by to welcome you on board the A to Z Challenge April 2012
We shall have loads of fun exchanging comments and visits!

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Cathy said...

Sounds very romantic and sweet to me, Dear. God bless you and your dear Lovebug.

Dorothy said...

Hi Denise, I hope you have a wonderful day. Your words are an inspiration to me. They make me realize my husband thinks love is a verb, too. He helps me so much. I hope you feel as good as you have made me feel this morning. :-D
Lots of love, from me and Wilma

Just Be Real said...

Blessings to you Denise.

Julie Arduini said...

That brought tears to my eyes. To have your mom swept off her feet, that says so much about Eddie. Many blessings to you both.

bp said...

So many sweet examples of how romance is alive in your marrage. Have a happy day!
Bethany

Pia said...

this is such a beautiful and touching post. love it!

Alicia The Snowflake said...

Oh what a beautiful picture of love! Thanks for sharing!

Amanda@EmbracingGrace said...

What a great post. So sweet. This post is a great reminder to look for the romance in our man. Husbands love differently and we should not confine them to the "cookie cutter" definition of romance. Thank you for sharing.