It is easy to hold a grudge, but hard to forgive. It is easy to hate, but hard to love. It is easy to be angry, but hard to be patient. God calls us to do what is difficult, not what is always easy. He knows what is good for us, and we need to trust His judgment.
A woman I know has a license plate that spells out the word forgive. Every time I see her car in the parking lot at work, I am reminded of what God says over and over. He commands us to forgive others, no matter what they have done to us. We must do the hard thing, and forgive them.
Even if someone did something that made us lose our job, we must forgive. Even if a person told damaging stories about us, we must forgive. Even if our reputation suffers, we must forgive. Even if an individual takes credit for what we have done, we must forgive.
God does not ask us what we want to do. He tells us. We have no say in the matter, and we do not get to choose our will over God’s. Either we obey Him, or not. It is that simple, even though what we have to do is difficult. If we do not forgive, we are on our own. If we make an effort to forgive, God will be with us, and help us. The sooner we start forgiving, the quicker we will be able to put our anger, hate, and resentment behind us. These things have no place in our life, and they belong in the past.
If you cannot forgive for yourself, at least forgive for God.