Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Letter To My 16 Year Old Self

This week I am writing a series of advice letters to myself at ages 16, 21,36, 42, and 45.. I cannot claim the idea as an original, I got the idea from Angela. Dear Me at age 16, I know being sixteen has been everything but sweet. You are feeling much older than your 16 years. Emotionally, mentally and physically you feel sick. You trusted your stepfather, and would never have thought in a million years, that he would ever hurt you, especially in such a brutal way. You never imagined that you could, or would be a victim of sexual abuse, but you were. You feel dirty,used, and very ashamed. You think you will forever be used goods, that no one will ever want you . You feel you are destined to be alone for the duration of your life, marriage is totally out of the question for you, so you think. My dear friend, you are so wrong. Please quit piling all the blame for your abuse on top of yourself, put the blame where it belongs, on your stepfather. You were the victim, never forget that, you did nothing wrong, and nothing to deserve this. You have no reason at all to feel ashamed, you are not used goods. You are a beautiful daughter of the King. You can, and will rise above this. You are not destined to be alone, I promise you that. Marriage will be a beautiful gift that you will be blessed with in five years. Hang on, your lovebug is coming. Love, you at 45

14 comments:

Gretchen said...

Beautiful. xxxooo

Debra said...

This is so lovely...I love you my sweet friend.

Carol said...

Thanks for your comment at the Cafe!

Jennifer said...

What an amazing post! It brought tears to my eyes. You are truly an amazing woman, Denise. Beautiful...inside and out.

Love you!

Daphine said...

Awesome post, Denise!

Shelby said...

Denise this was incredible. Oh I wish your younger self could know this you!

You are such a blessing.

Speaking from the Heart said...

I loveeee it!!! You are beautiful on the inside, as well on the outside. I Love you.

Marsha said...

Absolutely beautiful... just like you.... at 16 AND 45.

Love you!

Mrs.Naz@BecomingMe said...

Oh Denise...I had no idea...this was so poignant and tears flew from my eyes as soon as I began reading. Thank you for sharing. And thank you for your comment encouragement on my blog.

Anonymous said...

thanks for your comments, God is good. angie told me all about you and how much she loves you and is thankful for your friendship.

Jeff Knight

Cheryl said...

Amen and Amen!

Love,
Cheryl

luvmy4sons said...

Oh to be able to have the knowledge and wisdom we have now and go back and live life again...I am so sorry you were hurt. I understand that kind of pain...and it is good that we have a loving heavenly Father who restores all things.

Beth (A Mom's Life) said...

What a wonderful letter.

Heather said...

breaks my heart to know that's how you felt at 16. i'm so happy you hung in there! i'm truly going to enjoy these letters you are working on. what a great thing to do for yourself. you are going to be healing so much with these.