Monday, July 29, 2013

Decision Made

Well, the decision has been made concerning this Wednesday(July 31st). I will not be going to the meeting to discuss my options concerning vocational training for a possible future part-time, or full time job. As most of you know, my husband has made his feelings about this crystal clear, over and over again. He feels very strongly about this, truly against it in every way.  So, in order to keep the peace in my home, and so I will in no way show disrespect to my husband, or go against God, I will let go of this pursuit. Thanks for your love, prayers, care, and concern.

32 comments:

Angela said...

Since you allow these comments to be moderated, I will have NO problem you not sharing this with everyone on your blog Denise, but I want to share this with you...

PLEASE PLEASE seek counseling, seek help, seek attention OUTSIDE your home..meaning, not just your husband's counsel..I don't have to tell you to seek God's counsel for you do..God's Word is COVERED with it..Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15:22...You only share your side, but the side you share, Denise, your husband is abusive towards you....and that is NOT God's will for your life...that is NOT from God's hand!~ God has allowed this to happen, not to harm you but for your good and the saving of many lives (including your husband's) Genesis 50:20...As I shared with my son's girlfriend..'you may need to leave him if he continues to behave this way. You leaving him will help him to make the decision that he needs help. You staying with him just allows him to continue on with his behavior, making excuses of changing'...I will NEVER tell you to leave your husband...but I do pray to God that He protects you from your husband's abusive behavior, and praying that you are strong enough to do the right thing...like I said Denise..this is for you...you can delete this and not share it in the comment section...I have to place my heavy heart into the Lord's hand over this...and trust Him...as I've said..getting healthy hurts,but staying sick hurts more. what breaks my heart is when I see others choosing to stay in the sickness....

Pamela said...

Your heart has been battered lately, Denise. It makes my heart sad, but I've been praying for grace (for you) and conviction (for your husband).

Pia said...

Denise, i haven't been blogging lately. I haven't been reading blogs too. But i want you to know that i am praying for you dear. Know that even if you don't hear from me often, you are in my thoughts. Love you, denise!

Stephanie said...

I agree with Pamela - your heart has been battered. Praying for you, sweet Denise!

Love and hugs!

Ceil said...

Hi Denise! I hope that you are at peace with your decision.

Do you see any wisdom in what Angela has said?

Peace,
Ceil

BumbleBeeLane said...

Even if you agree to let this go to be at peace with your husband, you still need to be around others and get out of the house (church, gym, family).Seems he is not happy with anything outside of him.Your marathon, work, church, visiting your sister.I understand some is probly conern for you and your health and he may be scared, but the stress and depression this is causing you is far more damaging to your health than trying to set goals.God gave you a second chance he certainly didn't do that so you could live in fear and sadness, he did it so you could shine for him and show the world what new beginings are. Life is not easy for any of us and Satan likes to take every chance he can to hurt and destroy.Keep fighting friend and keep the faith. Know that you are cared for by so many. Keeping you and hubby in prayer. Amy

Ashley Barnes said...

I will keep you in my prayers Denise and I may have to agree. You seem to be more hurt than ever lately when God wants you to have a fun, abundant, and fruitful life.

I love you dearly beloved ♥

Angela said...

Father, my heart rejoices over the daughters that You have brought to my precious sister here this day!~ I have tears of joy, overwhelming love and just praise for You right now..I had to stop to wipe my tears...

Prayer : O Lord, I give our lives to you. I trust in you, my God! Show us the right path, O Lord; point out the road for us to follow. Remember, O Lord, your compassion and unfailing love which You have shown from long ages past.

You will show me the path I should choose. I will live in prosperity, and will inherit the land.

Turn to me, have mercy, for I feel alone and in deep distress. My problems go from bad to worse. Oh, save me from them all! May integrity and honesty protect me, for I put my hope in you. (Psalm 25) ....this is my prayer for you!~

Lisa in Texas = ) said...

Denise- Just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you. I also wanted to let you know that I really feel that your husbands anger has been being fueled by fear. With your health issues that you have been dealing with - are surely scaring him and he may not be able to put it into words at this point. I pray for both of you and that God will touch your husbands heart. God can work good out of bad. Just keep trusting Him to do so. God bless you dear friend, Lisa :O)

Michell Pulliam said...

Oh my sweet friend! I sure hate to hear this! I'm praying that God surrounds you with a GREAT support base, who ALL have your best interest at heart!! And whatever God needs to do to get you the help you need...He'll do it in Jesus' name! I will be interceding for you my friend! Love you!xoxo

The Queen of Brussels Sprouts said...

Hard. Hurtful. But the right choice. You did as your husband asked...not always the easiest thing or even right...but very good.

sweetvintageofmine said...

Oh, I was sooo disappointed to read this. Unless, you truly ARE NOT physically able (because of your health)to go to this meeting and your husband knows this.....then that is the right decision. If it's for any other reason than this....shame on him! Life can pass us by before we know it....God came to give life and life more abundantly! You ARE NOT stuck.....only if you want to be....I pray things can change for you (if you are physically able) Be Blessed because you have so much to offer.....YOU are a BLESSING!! Roxie

Suzanne McClendon said...

I am so sorry for yet another disappointment, my sweet and loyal friend. {{{Hugs}}} I don't know how to help you through these hurts, but please know that I am praying for you. Love you, my friend.

Kristin Bridgman said...

Dear sweet lady, I applaud you for wanting to honor your husband. I will only say...Angela had some good things to say. I am praying for you and for your husband. Praying for God's leading to be clear and peace, love, and understanding to be in your lives.
Bless you dear one!
Kris

rcubes said...

Praying that He will guide you and give you His discernment in all of the obstacles you face. Same with bro. Eddie. Be strong in the Lord's mighty power...Love you sister.

Deanna said...

Oh sweet Shorty Bear! I am sorry to hear this but only for one reason...it hurts on the inside to let a dream go back to sleep. But not sad in another sense because you love Jesus with all that you are and you know and I know that He holds all our days in His hands and bringing each day as may according to His will of a hope and purpose for each of His childen....you. I pray the weariness in your heart is sweetly ministered by Jesus. I can't help but to knowthat you are marching rightalong the tune of all this towards the Lord more and more.
Bless you sweet Denise.
Your joy in the Lord is so inspiring to me, thank you. Your faith in Jesus tells us that you know in your life that God's "will" will be.
Love you!!

momenten met God said...

Thanks angela i agree with your post. But i respect peoples life. Its not a healthy

Dee said...

Sweet Denise, Only you know your heart and the love you have for your husband. I am sure he loves you in the only way he knows how but he should not be treating you the way he is....love is not a one way street. Keep praying for him...trust God....but take care of your spirit and your health.

sweetvintageofmine said...

I'm so sorry to hear this Denise.....it's really not our business but what is your husbands concern? Your health, independence, transportation needs? Does your Doctor feel you can physically do this? Would it be good for you? If you need to get out and be part of something...can you be involved in your local church..that would be so fulfilling. If you want to go to church...you should..period. This isn't Gods will for you to stay home because your husband wants you too. I want you to be happy my blog friend....God wants you to be happy! Life is too short....we love you! Roxie

LeAnn said...

I don't think you should give up on your desire to do this. Just put it aside until you are not having so many physical struggles. Meanwhile, is there a chance you could get into some counseling that would help you know how to deal with your husband. I still think he is in the angry stage of grieving. Sometimes, you can get help to help him.
Blessings, prayers and hugs for you.

Peggy said...

Precious Denise,
I pray that YOU have the peace that passes all understanding over this decision and the peace in your home that comes from God living and flourishing. You know how I feel about all of this clearly and that I purposefully put that post for prayer for you at The Lighthouse of Prayer for this very reason. I so agree with my sister in Christ, Angela and others! Please don't give up the battle and continue waging against this enemy that has filtered in to that home where you want to keep the peace but it seems both need to be seeking God, His will and His direction (not just one). Peace comes with unity and harmony which I fail to see. Peace may happen temporarily in your home because of your compromise and desire to not cause any more ripples but I believe it is at a great sacrifice and another dream satan has destroyed for you as he's been dashing and darting so many, so this is why I say: pray, keep waging this war on your knees but please do seek godly wisdom and counsel as advised outside of your 4 walls,stay alert and on guard as you wait for God to move mountains, you need to still do your part. You need help. Yes, God is Your Defender but He asks of us to come along side Him and His principles in a united front, piercing the darkness with the Sword of truth. You are blinded by your love. This is not a healthy situation for you, where you and your spirit can thrive and survive, wounded and cast down. No,my dear little sister, this is by far not the time nor are you to give up or give in but press on. I hope that God will open another door in His timing and you will be ready (and so will your husband). I pray that the gates of hell will be sealed shut around you and the Holy Spirit and God's Truth and your obedience to Him (is what truly counts),peace within you and not stuffed feelings of surrender. May God guide and direct your steps to a healthy situation so you can get well,stay well and really cast this at Jesus' feet, trusting Him to provide another way out. I do hope that this brings peace within you first, then your home and that God blesses you, your physical, emotional and spiritual health with long days and His favor ...and that somehow this all pours over your household so your husband realizes how much you both need to be in church, pray and love together, and seek God's best in all ways. I love you but not as much as God does and He truly wants His peace to reign. I will continue to pray and ask others to do the same and stand with you.
Thanking each for coming to leave their prayers still at:
http://thelighthouseofprayer.blogspot.com/2013/07/the-battle-is-on-and-we-are-standing.html

(((hugs))) Peggy

Joy said...

Sorry to hear that Denise coz I am sure that decision made you very sad. I cant imagine why he iis against you developing. Anyway, it is your decision and I jusr pray that God will work in your hubby's heart.

Love Bears All Things said...

Praying for you, Sweetie and your decision...I also pray that Eddie keeps his promise to go to church with you.
Love you,
Mama Bear

Sharon said...

When one door closes, another door opens. I'm praying and trusting that God will work a perfect plan out of this disappointment.

But I have to agree with Angela, too. You need someone to talk to about this situation. Like I said, do you have anyone at your church?

GOD BLESS!

Laurie Collett said...

Praying for you, dear one. You are a light and inspiration to all.
God bless,
Laurie

Chatty Crone said...

Will everything be okay then?

Ashley Ditto said...

Praying for you!

LauraLee said...

I wish I'd read this post first. I don't know your situation, but I'm praying to the One who does, for comfort, encouragement, healing, discernment, wisdom, godly counsel, strength & everything else God leads me to pray. Much love in Christ to you.

cynia said...

I agree with Angela. Fight!

Alecia Simersky said...

I read this the other day and my heart just broke for you. I'm so sorry your husband has come against you like this. I'm praying so hard for you. For wisdom, strength, and courage.

Remember the devil fights us the hardest when we are on the verge of a breakthrough. I truly believe the devil knows what a fighter you are and is scared of you!! And knows that if you went through with this program to help yourself you will do great and mighty things in the Lord's name and he doesn't like that one bit!

He is using your husband to fight you and beat you down. I pray you reconsider and go on into the program. Once you go and your husband sees how well you are doing, I believe he will be on your side and see how wrong he was. If not, you know that you still did the right thing. And you are only responsible for your actions not his. Praying sweet friend, I know this can't be easy!!

Denise said...

It could also be a sign of your meekness,which You know The Lord loves in Us :)In fact,it's the definition of meekness-Hugs Denise

Denise said...

This morning very early right upon awakening I felt the importance of getting back to You.In Your case,with abuse involved,it may not be the meekness that the Lord wishes of Us. Continue to seek His will in Your life ad speak to a pastor of Your own faith.With a prayer in My heart-Love-Denise