Monday, November 7, 2011

Marriage Monday- Inlaws

Hello my dear friends, welcome to another edition of Marriage Monday. The topic for this month is in laws, or , unfortunately in my case, it is outlaws. Lovebug and I will celebrate 27 years of marriage in April.  We have been trying for all those years, to build some type of relationship with his parents for me. But, unfortunately, they do not want to build any kind of bridge, only break hearts. It is beyond sad, I love his parents for many reasons, number one being, they gave me lovebug. Their love created my precious lovebug. I wish I knew why they feel the way they do, but God knows their hearts. They are both Christians, that is what really bothers me. When I was recently in the hospital, due to my stroke, close to death, they never called, or came to see me. I was in two hospitals, for three weeks. I can accept this, it hurts, but I can accept it. But, my dear lovebug is so stressed, and upset due to this. He went to see them on Saturday, he asked them several questions regarding their recent behaviour. He told them that he was really hurt over the way they had treated us. He told them he really needed them during all of this, but they were not there. They gave him no answers. Please help me to pray for them, may God melt their coldness toward me, and bring us all together. Bless you, and your in laws.

19 comments:

Cheri Gregory said...

Your attitude of openness and acceptance is a blessing, in spite of such overt coldness.

I am inspired that your focus is on your husband and not on yourself.

Prayers for your recovery!

Messy Marriage said...

I'm so sorry that your in-laws have treated you this way. It's always hardest to accept those things that don't make sense. I will pray for you that God comforts your heart and heals your body.

Thanks so much for stopping by my blog too. And by the way, your link at Marriage Monday isn't working. Just thought you'd want to know. But I found you anyway! Ahh, persistence! :)

From the Heart said...

I agree with Cheri. You have a good heart of forgiveness and love.
I had good in-laws but they've been gone since the early 70's. We use to visit them every two weeks and at family reunions. They came and stayed with us a few times but they were use to the country. We will see them again one day and they will be pleased to know their prayers were answered about salvation of their 11 children. One daughter died at age 47 and I'm not sure she was a Christian, but all the rest are.

Will keep you in prayer and also your inlaws that God will show them the error of their ways.

April said...

Denise,
I am so sorry to hear of your troubles with your in-laws. I know that can't be an easy situation for you. Only God can soften their hearts. Will be praying!

April said...

Denise,
I am so sorry to hear of your troubles with your in-laws. I know that can't be an easy situation for you. Only God can soften their hearts. Will be praying!

e-Mom said...

Ouch, I hurt for you! I'm so sorry your in-laws have been such a disappointment. I know you would wish for nothing more than an open relationship with the parents of your dear husband!

People do behave in strange ways when accident or illness befalls a family member. Perhaps your in-laws have their own fears about mortality and ill health (and hospitals?) that kept them from visiting.

Whatever the reason, I'm sure it has less to do with you, and more to do with them. Perhaps your DH can find out the next time he brings up the subject. I'm glad he tried to find out.

Thanks for joining us for Marriage Monday today, Denise!

Love 'n Hugs,

e-Mom ღ

Sue said...

There is nothing impossible with God, Denise. I will help pray for them to have a heart change. There are lot of things in life, we don't understand, one thing for sure, God has the final say in all things, and He will here.
Blessings to you dear friend.
Sue

Lon said...

I sure will pray!

God bless!

Tami Boesiger said...

May God ease you and your husband's pain and find a way to bring about true relationship.

Faith said...

What a blessing that you can be forgiving and open....and that you are so intent on being one with your husband even with the nuisance of his parents....how SAD for them.....they are the ones missing out.....very sad that they call themselves Christian and yet act this way toward you. They must have some real deep issues of hurts...there is definitely a root of bitterness or something very negative in their spirits. My heart is sad for you! But....your attitude about the situation is a true testimony! god bless you!!

Cathy said...

Oh, Dear, that is so sad. I pray for healing for the relationship. I hope you are feeling better, Dear. I love you. Hugs ~

Peggy said...

Ohhh Denise and Love bug, My heart aches for you both. As if you need any more stress. They really do need to get over it (whatever it is that keeps them cold as ice)! I will pray for them as you must also. pray for those who persecute us, especially other Christians and family. I ask Our Heavenly Father to give Lovebug (or you) wisdom in how to handle this and that all stress be gone over this. As always, Denise, you shine Jesus in your attitude here and we can only hope that God shakes them to wake them. It seems that Lovebug has done his very best and try to remain open also to help resolve it
but we need God to remove this LOG. It's not just a speck. May the bridge happen with Jesus who fills the gap and stands with arms outstretched between both sides.
May God melt and flow in Jesus Name we ask this...
Love, peace and comfort as God provides,
Peggy

nice A said...

Your parents-in-law might be suffering on their own that they deny to see your suffering. Your acceptance of the situation shows a good spirit though.
I'm praying for your recovery, Denise.

Karen said...

I agree with Faith that your in-laws are the ones missing out on a beautiful relationship...will pray about this, dear one...

Marcia said...

Denise, always so good to hear from you, my precious friend.
To your post I'll simply say that we can only be responsible for our own actions/choices/attitudes but if we try to assume responsibility for the actions of others, all we get is heartache, burdens, anxiety and weight that God does not and has not called us to carry.
Yes, they may be Christian but as all Christians/believers, they are imperfect people trusting a perfect God and obviously this area of their heart needs huge work which ONLY GOD can handle--not you or their son.
I'd say let go darling because if not it will consume you and also be harmful to your marriage and even physical health Share this with your hubby. Tell him to place his parents where they are better kept--in God's hands. I speak from personal experience.
Love you lotsa potsa. ;) Always praying for you.

MyJourneyBack said...

I know. Boy do I know. I can't post on Mon.
(Might be a good thing lol.) I feel for you. I have had years of 'outlaw' behavior but nothing like you. Again I will pray for you and Love Bug. I pray God heals the hurt unril he heals the relationship. Hugs to you both. Love, S.

Dawn said...

I am so sorry to hear this - I will add it to my prayers! Blessings from MM!

Cranberry Morning said...

Denise, might it be jumping to conclusions that they are Christians? James 2:18, I John 3:14-15, I John 4:20. I will be praying for your in-laws, that they, if they are Christians, will be convicted of their sin. We cannot love God and not love 'the brethern' or in this case 'the sistern' ;-) Bless you, dear one, as you trust in Jesus to be your ALL in ALL!

Thank you for entering my Soap'n'Such GIVEAWAY.

Cranberry Morning said...

I guess what I was trying to say, Denise, is the love of God comes forth from us if we truly are Christ followers. Praying a prayer or walking an aisle don't save people. Following Jesus and trusting Him does. I will be praying for your in-laws.