Forgiveness, such a powerful word. It can have a major effect on your life. It is not always easy to forgive, pain is real, and it hurts deeply. We are to hate the sin, not the sinner. How many times in your life, have you said these words, I forgive her/him,but I will never forget what they did to me? What if God felt that way? Well, I forgive you Denise, but I will never forget your sins. Praise God, when He forgives, He also forgets. He wipes your slate clean, you are able to start over. My stepfather sexually abused me, and for years I carried around feelings of hurt, pain, and self-hatred. Why did he do this? How could he have hurt me like this? Why doesn't anybody believe me? These feelings were not hurting him at all, but they were devastating me. Carrying that heavy burden around, weakened me, and gave him all the power. He was ruling my life, because I could not let go of the pain. He passed away in 2003, but he continued to haunt me. My momma asked me to go to the funeral with her, so out of respect for her, I went. I was physically ill the entire day. I almost passed out during the burial. Afterwards, I began to have really bad nightmares about him, he was coming after me. Finally, in 2004, I asked my husband to take me to the cemetery where my stepfather is buried. I took a picture of him with me, I stood at his grave, looking at his picture. As my precious husband stood by my side, holding tightly to me, I talked to my stepfather. I cried, and I screamed. The intense pain from all the years,came pouring out of me. I told him he had no right to hurt me the way he did, that he was wrong. I said everything that I had kept bottled up inside of me for so long. The last thing I said to him, was that it is over. You no longer have power over my life, the chains are gone. I forgive you. Then, I burned his picture, and scattered the ashes over his grave. When I walked away from that grave, I was a new creation. Praise God, I am free. Thank You my Father, for showing me by Your example, how to forgive.